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    Mar092014

    Dear Sebastian: [an open letter] 

    *this is our attempt to publicly name an incident that may impact other people and communities down the line.

    Dear Sebastian, 

    We're writing you an open letter because it's important for us to vocalize the ways we've been mistreated by you over the last several months. Silence, the desire to appear perfect or flat out pretending like things are okay when they aren't are not the way bklyn boihood has ever rolled through anything. So, we're taking a huge risk by publicly articulating where we're at with all of this because call out cultures are so damn messy. But then, so is life.
    Everyone deserves the opportunity to let their light shine. We're grateful bklyn boihood was that space for you. We're also sad (really more disappointed) that you shitted on our space and work for your own gain. This note is our attempt to be transparent about an experience that could impact other people and groups down the line.

    You stole (a lot of) money from us and that sucks.

    The money we use to travel, make merch, support other orgs/people's work, to feed volunteers, to deposit venues, keep our web presence going, to give honorariums to collaborators (notice how none of this involves our personal pockets)--all of it--gone.
    It wasn't until we tried to use our money that we found out it was all gone. Yes, you paid it back--mostly. But guess what? It wasn't a loan so the story CAN'T end there. 
    None of us are wealthy (or even stable half the time). We all "work" for bklyn boihood without getting paid and none of us are confused about how much energy, effort and time it takes to drive something that isn't built for profit--it's built because we all need to feel human, present, visible and not alone.
     
    We've talked a LOT in closed spaces with you. Together we shared our love, shared our disappointment and tried to make plans with you to correct your actions. You clearly didn't give a damn as you decided to not show up to the ONLY thing we asked you to do for free.
    So here we are. After the frustration, tears, efforts to cover your absence and our lack of resources, we give up. We'd rather struggle through the present with integrity than continue to try to excuse your actions in silence. 

    With that we'll say: Good luck Black man. May you course-correct, embody the REAL tenets of self-care outside of the clothes and bags of weed our money bought you. Most of all, we hope you learn to love yourself into being worth struggling honestly for.

    With love + a clear line drawn in the sand, 
    the bois

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    Reader Comments (8)

    what does all of this mean for BBH?

    March 9, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterAnonymous

    It means...we need a new DJ? Idk, mang! What it REALLY REALLY means is that we've got tons of great projects and opportunities and we're working them all out! Because we are a collective, we run together, work together and build together. None of our mission and/or vision is reliant on one person so...we'll hug each other and send each other lots of supportive texts and then...we're going to keep it pushing.

    Thanks for asking!

    <3,

    the bois

    March 10, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterBBH

    it is both difficult and beautiful being transparent. i am so glad that you have chosen not to suffer in silence. trimming the fat is a necessary task. i wish you all love and light as you move forward. pray you get back 10 fold all that you've put in. you've given so much to our community. know that your work is totally necessary and saves lives. thank you for continuing to struggle. we count, we matter. thanks for making space for all the bois i love so much. xx

    March 12, 2014 | Unregistered Commenterk'dera

    thank you k'dera! <3

    March 15, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterBBH

    The part I find is wildly interesting about this whole thing is the fact that you speak on creating safe spaces for ppl to exist, yet this shows the opposite. I see no real point in any of this. Theres more shade to this than any other point in this letter. You speak on collective love and things of the like, yet this is such a low vibrational attempt to bridge into peace. This seems like an attempt at a publicity stunt to place you all in the seat to receive pity, as if Sebastian is some grand embezzler, and as a result BBH no longer thrives.

    ""With that we'll say: Good luck Black man. May you course-correct, embody the REAL tenets of self-care outside of the clothes and bags of weed our money bought you. Most of all, we hope you learn to love yourself into being worth struggling honestly for."" Really,? Thats so dry. Attempting to throw love and mix shade to make this seem a little less unnecessary. I really wish you all well. This could have been handled in a more progressive manner, however.
    You've definitely lost a supporter.

    April 8, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterAsa'

    What Asa' said.

    A simple "it is with great sadness/ regret/ dissapointment that we inform you that we are no longer affiliated with ______/ ____ have broken ties, BBH and ____ have partied ways" etc etc and so on.

    Public shaming is messy messy and just not...sexy.

    April 8, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterDark Rider

    Thanks for your feedback! It took us a lot to come to the decision to be transparent--especially given the lengths we went to resolve this in private. It is messy! The whole thing is messy and we're grateful for your feelings and feedback. Question: when people violate community resources, is it your responsibility to keep the experience private or is it your responsibility to create a situation in which you are able to hold the wrong doer accountable? There is no perfect answer but we're trying. Thank you for trying too.

    April 11, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterBBH

    Courageous, humbling and full of integrity open letter.

    July 12, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterNessette

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